Not only does the Bible say "the tongue is like the rudder of a ship, so small, yet it sets the course of life and too often starts a mighty flame".. but we, our selves, are supposed to "reckon" our selves as "crucified with Christ". What this means is when considering a problem or an argument, almost always what is required is a 'dying to self'.. a forgetting of self and to not consider self in the matter (and in life, letting God, who knows our greater good, consider us, for us). To consider self less and letting self bow is a key to life! (The Christian life. Only Jesus in us can accomplish it.) It sounds hard at first, but actually, it's easier than the trials and tribulations me, myself and I are prone to get into!